Category Archives: Counseling young people

The Scripture’s Effect on the Mind

Twenty years ago a deeply troubled young man stepped into my office.  He was accompanied by a friend for the sake of encouragement. Together they began to pour out his sad story. When he was in 8th grade he became a victim of sexual abuse at the hand of high school teen. As he hadContinue Reading

Building Bridges: Introduction to the Nine Areas

John Piper once wrote, “Books don’t change people; paragraphs do. Sometimes even sentences.” Such was the case with a sentence that was given me by a friend over 15 years ago. I have found that whenever I have used this idea in my ministry or in my parenting I have not been disappointed.  To myContinue Reading

Building Bridges: 9 Key Areas for Questions and Scriptures

The nine areas of consideration are intentionally built upon the acrostic “scripture” so that we may remember both the importance of the question (to discern the need) and the Scripture (to offer hope and change). As a pastor, for years I have lived by the addage: Ask questions until a Biblical parallel comes to mind. NineContinue Reading

Section 1: Salvation – Where is their relationship with the Lord?

Key questions to ask: Do you know for sure that you’re going to heaven? Why? Do you know what the Bible says about how one gets to heaven? Has there ever been a point in your life where you’ve trusted Christ as your Savior? Have you ever doubted your salvation? Very seriously? How often? KeyContinue Reading

Section 2: Christian Helps – Are they properly using their Bible and church?

Key questions to ask: Do you read your Bible? How often? What have you gotten from your quiet-time recently? When was the last time you had a problem and the Bible showed you what to do about it? In what ways does the Lord speak to you at church? What are you doing for othersContinue Reading

Section 3: Relationships: Friends – What kinds of friends do they have?

Key questions to ask: Who are your three  closest friends? Do you like to be with them? Why? Why not? What are the hardest things you face with your friends? Do your friends get along with their parents? What do your parents think about your friends? Do you ever discuss spiritual things with your friends?Continue Reading

Section 4: Individual Perception – What What is the best part about being you?

Key questions to ask: What is the best part about being you? If you could change one thing about yourself,  what would it be? Is there a “normal” person (not an athlete or actor) you would like to be like? Why? What are your three greatest fears? Who are your three greatest heroes? Fill inContinue Reading

Section 5: Parents – What is their relationship like with their parents?

Key questions to ask: Can you give me three things that usually happen in your home? Who are you closest to, mom or dad? In what ways are you like them? In what ways are you not? If you could change one thing about your family,  what would it be? What do you do (orContinue Reading

Section 6: Theology – Can you tell me some things you know about God?

Key quesions to ask: Can you tell me some things you know about God? If the Lord invited you to ask one question about what has happened in your past or what might happen in your future, what would it be? Why? What do you think God thinks about you? Why? What do you knowContinue Reading

Section 7: Unforgiving Spirit – What are they bitteror angry about?

Key questions to ask: Have you ever been hurt deeply? What happened? What is your relationship with that person like now? Do you find it easy or hard to forgive someone who does you wrong? When was the last time you asked someone’s forgiveness? What happened? If you wrong someone and ask God’s forgiveness, doContinue Reading